Healing for today. Hope for tomorrow. Treatment Foster Parents and What They Do
At Anu Family Services we understand that traumatized, disconnected youth need the safety of a family in order to heal.
We need families that are committed and compassionate enough to stick by youth while they heal their grief, loss and trauma.
We need parents who are caring, patient and flexible. Parents who will...
- Bear witness to their pain.
- Let them know that we see them and hear them.
- Create space for them to tell their story while we listen (they cannot process when we are talking); be comfortable with silence.
- Let them tell their own story and be the boss of their own grief work; do not confront denial in grief work; that will come naturally when healing happens.
- Help youth understand that they deserved to get things they did not get as a younger child and this is not their fault and they could do nothing to change that (e.g., relieve them of their guilt and shame). E.g., “If you were my baby.”
- Help youth be in touch with their bodies and places where they hold their trauma and give them tools to release this trauma.
- Help youth understand their trauma-triggers and trauma-responses.
- Help youth understand the link between their current behavior and their past experience.
- Teach skills to help youth avoid trauma-responses in order to respond in the present moment.
- Use interventions that connect, not disconnect.
- Understand that behaviors are often not willful, rather are trauma-responses.
- Understand that punishment exacerbates trauma.
- Provide a safe, consistent, nurturing place to do this work.
- Understand that many behaviors are developmentally appropriate or normal, healthy responses to grief, loss and trauma
- Help youth feel safe
- Provide consistent, repetitive, healing responses
- Be a co-regulating partner and model self-regulation
- Value and appreciate their strengths and resilience
- Help them connect with those they’ve loved and lost and build strong networks of support
- Take care of themselves